So my plan to wake up before baby cakes failed misserably today. Maybe because I didn't go to bed unitl midnight! UGH! This is going to be REALLY hard for me. I think I will set my clock for 7am instead of 6am. Baby cakes didn't wake up until 8 today. So at least 7 is a little bit later and maybe it will be easier for me to get out of bed. I also should try to be in bed by 11pm. I will work toward an earlier bedtime, but for now 11pm is my goal! LOL! Baby steps people!!!
The kitchen is looking better. I've been struck with an aweful migrain today, so I'm moving at a really slow pace. I took some Excedrin earlier and it seemed to have helped a little bit. I just have a few more things to tidy up and I will have my SPARKELY kitchen back!
I will try to start doing some before and after pictures. They will probably be posted later on because I am taking things SLOW so no one room will be done all in one day. So I'll just take a before picture and whenever the job is complete I'll show the after. I think this will help keep me motivated to actually SEE my progress and where I've come from. Hopefully also motivate me NOT to let it get that bad again! *fingers crossed*
Once all the clutter is gone, then I will start on Fly Lady's daily cleaning chores and weekly home blessings. For now, I'm just focusing on the clutter and making everything look nice and finding a place for everything.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Why learn to fly?
I have so many reasons!! I am sick of running around like a chicken with it's head cutt off. I'm sick of the mess. I'm sick of cleaning and turning around and the whole house becoming a wreck again!! I'm sick of not having the laundry done or clean dishes or pans to cook with.
I'm sick of so many things!
Feeling run down and worn out. Feeling like I'm at a dead end everytime I turn around. It's like I get one thing done and something much bigger pops up. I want some peace already!!! I want to not worry about it. I want to have it done when it needs to be done. Kind of a do and forget it type of thing. Ahhhh, the peace my clean kitchen brought me! Imagine my whole house that way and then just doing small taskes each day to keep it that way!! That would be awesome!
Most of all though... I am doing this for my family and to make myself happy. Running around drained and stressed out all the time has really taken a toll on my health, my happeniss, and my marraige! It's crazy how out of control things can get! When things are in order your happy, you take care of yourself, and you have more to give to your husband and kids. All this in turn will make you even more happier!! It erases the stress. Lifts a huge weight off your shoulders. I can't wait until I move from flybaby to flylady!!!
I'm sick of so many things!
Feeling run down and worn out. Feeling like I'm at a dead end everytime I turn around. It's like I get one thing done and something much bigger pops up. I want some peace already!!! I want to not worry about it. I want to have it done when it needs to be done. Kind of a do and forget it type of thing. Ahhhh, the peace my clean kitchen brought me! Imagine my whole house that way and then just doing small taskes each day to keep it that way!! That would be awesome!
Most of all though... I am doing this for my family and to make myself happy. Running around drained and stressed out all the time has really taken a toll on my health, my happeniss, and my marraige! It's crazy how out of control things can get! When things are in order your happy, you take care of yourself, and you have more to give to your husband and kids. All this in turn will make you even more happier!! It erases the stress. Lifts a huge weight off your shoulders. I can't wait until I move from flybaby to flylady!!!
What's in it for me?
This is one of the main concepts of Flylady that I have overlooked each and everytime. I was the mytar she talks about. It was me that went around whining and complaining about housework! I was being so negative about it. It just became so stressfull and I became a procrastinator. If I couldn't do it right, I wasn't going to even start it in the first place. Why try anyways, it's going to be a mess again soon. I was negative and I had excuses for everything!! ESPECIALLY, feeling sorry for myself!!! I mean come on! I'm not the only one who lives here! Why do I have to do all the work!???
Well, her book addresses this and so much more. It really hit home with me. How can I expect my husband to help out when I complain so much about doing it myself??? Why not just get it done with a smile (you gotta do it anyways, might as well make it look fun!) and then just wait for the others to help. Surprisingly in just a 2 weeks this little trick has worked. I stopped complaining (out loud, LOL!) and just did my work. The hubbs started pitching in. Nothing major mind you, but small steps. Maybe later on he'll want to help even more??? Ha ha!! Maybe, maybe not... Either way, a clean house relieves stress for yourself (and family as well) so your really giving your family a huge gift by doing this. Less stress in the family equals a happier family! You do the math!
Another major thing I am guilty of is not taking care of myself. Since the baby has arrived it's all about him and housework. Me? Well, I took care of myself when time permitted, which wasn't often. This behavior leads to low self esteem. Low self esteem leads to stress and depression. In turn this becomes a viscous cycle of you being unhappy and unmotivated to do anything. This equals things piling up, housework being ignored or overlooked..... it's just not something that will be productive or beneficial to yourself at all. I am guilty of waking up with the baby. When he cries my feet hit the floor and I run to his side. I change him and then I'm off to the kitchen to find my little munchkin a healthy breakfast. I sit him down make sure he eats, play, change, clean, try to squeeze in some educational things for baby cakes, feed him lunch, play some more, put him down for a nap, and ahhhhhhhhhhhh! It's just me! I'm then burnt out and realize I haven't eaten anything at all! Then on my way past a mirror I glance at myself.. WHO IS THAT MONSTER!!! LOL! My hair is ever which way, my skin is a wild mess... then I look down at my clothes... didn't I wear this yesterday????? UGH! And now I have to do housework??? No thanks.. off for a nap or a bite to eat from my empty fridge. God forbid if the UPS man knocked on my door during this time. I was such a mess! I would hide! Then if it needed a signature and I found the note instead of the package I ordered I would be mad at myself!
Has any of this happened to anyone else?????
Well, my next step to flying is to wake up about 30 - 60 minutes before baby cakes wakes up. YIKES! That means 6am! that will be hard. This means an earlier bed time... yada yada yada.... But I know I need to do this for myself. I need to wake up, eat, relax, have my coffee, check my emails, and just have some me time to start off my day. OH! and of course I need to wash my face, brush my hair, dress in some clean clothes! LOL! I'm not on the whole "lace up shoes" ban wagon just yet, so I think this is a good step in the right direction. I'm more of a barefoot/flipflops kinda gal!
Well, her book addresses this and so much more. It really hit home with me. How can I expect my husband to help out when I complain so much about doing it myself??? Why not just get it done with a smile (you gotta do it anyways, might as well make it look fun!) and then just wait for the others to help. Surprisingly in just a 2 weeks this little trick has worked. I stopped complaining (out loud, LOL!) and just did my work. The hubbs started pitching in. Nothing major mind you, but small steps. Maybe later on he'll want to help even more??? Ha ha!! Maybe, maybe not... Either way, a clean house relieves stress for yourself (and family as well) so your really giving your family a huge gift by doing this. Less stress in the family equals a happier family! You do the math!
Another major thing I am guilty of is not taking care of myself. Since the baby has arrived it's all about him and housework. Me? Well, I took care of myself when time permitted, which wasn't often. This behavior leads to low self esteem. Low self esteem leads to stress and depression. In turn this becomes a viscous cycle of you being unhappy and unmotivated to do anything. This equals things piling up, housework being ignored or overlooked..... it's just not something that will be productive or beneficial to yourself at all. I am guilty of waking up with the baby. When he cries my feet hit the floor and I run to his side. I change him and then I'm off to the kitchen to find my little munchkin a healthy breakfast. I sit him down make sure he eats, play, change, clean, try to squeeze in some educational things for baby cakes, feed him lunch, play some more, put him down for a nap, and ahhhhhhhhhhhh! It's just me! I'm then burnt out and realize I haven't eaten anything at all! Then on my way past a mirror I glance at myself.. WHO IS THAT MONSTER!!! LOL! My hair is ever which way, my skin is a wild mess... then I look down at my clothes... didn't I wear this yesterday????? UGH! And now I have to do housework??? No thanks.. off for a nap or a bite to eat from my empty fridge. God forbid if the UPS man knocked on my door during this time. I was such a mess! I would hide! Then if it needed a signature and I found the note instead of the package I ordered I would be mad at myself!
Has any of this happened to anyone else?????
Well, my next step to flying is to wake up about 30 - 60 minutes before baby cakes wakes up. YIKES! That means 6am! that will be hard. This means an earlier bed time... yada yada yada.... But I know I need to do this for myself. I need to wake up, eat, relax, have my coffee, check my emails, and just have some me time to start off my day. OH! and of course I need to wash my face, brush my hair, dress in some clean clothes! LOL! I'm not on the whole "lace up shoes" ban wagon just yet, so I think this is a good step in the right direction. I'm more of a barefoot/flipflops kinda gal!
Learning to fly!
I'm starting this blog to track my progress (or lack of) somewhere. To keep track of my madness and my efforts to make the choas go away! I have tried Fly Lady many many many times and failed every single time. I wasn't listening to the message she was sending out! I wasn't getting it. I just wanted a quick fix and it never worked.
Now I am truely understanding her and LISTENING to her words. Not just looking for tips to get things straight. So now I hope that this really will work out. It makes so much sense once you put it all together. Now that I have an almost 2 year old, it's important now more than ever to get this system to work! I am nearly done with her book, which has opened my eyes in so many ways!!! It's like she KNEW what was going on in my house!!! I have practiced a few things in her book, but I'm still starting out. I am not putting presure on myself to have everything done right now this instant. I am taking my time and getting it done right without burning myself out. I think this is one of her main messages.
What have I done so far you ask?? I have cleared out the medicine cabinet in the kitchen, cleared off the tops of the washer and dryer, and have cleaned the kitchen from top to bottom. Now my kitchen... my poor kitchen... is a mess again! LOL! I had it SPARKELING! It was beautiful. I will remember that feeling of stress relief and calm to move me forward. It has since this last week taken on a life of it's own again. I have been sick and it's so hard to keep things clean yourself, muchless expect others to do anything. So I am going back to my happy place in my mind of my sparkeling kitchen. I will have it clean again this week no doubt. Besides, it is NO WHERE near as much of a mess as it was before! So it should be quicker and easier to tackle. Now just to get my butt moving!!!!
Now I am truely understanding her and LISTENING to her words. Not just looking for tips to get things straight. So now I hope that this really will work out. It makes so much sense once you put it all together. Now that I have an almost 2 year old, it's important now more than ever to get this system to work! I am nearly done with her book, which has opened my eyes in so many ways!!! It's like she KNEW what was going on in my house!!! I have practiced a few things in her book, but I'm still starting out. I am not putting presure on myself to have everything done right now this instant. I am taking my time and getting it done right without burning myself out. I think this is one of her main messages.
What have I done so far you ask?? I have cleared out the medicine cabinet in the kitchen, cleared off the tops of the washer and dryer, and have cleaned the kitchen from top to bottom. Now my kitchen... my poor kitchen... is a mess again! LOL! I had it SPARKELING! It was beautiful. I will remember that feeling of stress relief and calm to move me forward. It has since this last week taken on a life of it's own again. I have been sick and it's so hard to keep things clean yourself, muchless expect others to do anything. So I am going back to my happy place in my mind of my sparkeling kitchen. I will have it clean again this week no doubt. Besides, it is NO WHERE near as much of a mess as it was before! So it should be quicker and easier to tackle. Now just to get my butt moving!!!!
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